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7 Rules for Couples to Live & Love Better by…

Consistently across many social index’s, the research has found that people are more productive, are healthier and more likely to have their finances in good shape when they are in a healthy, loving and committed marriage or long-term relationship.

But, where is the magic “Book of Healthy Marriage and Relationship Rules” to achieve this…. and who is the author? We suggested that this book needs to be co-authored by the couple…. along with some outside guidance.

We all need to love for and feel loved by another

If such a book existed it may best be written by couples who are in a committed and loving marriage or long-term relationship. And like all rules, they have come-into-being because of experiences not working as expected.


Here are 7 proven rules that work for couples

Rule # 1

Ensure that your partner feels like they matter to you, in everything you do, not do, say or not say. Use this as a filter and simply ask yourself, “If I do this or not do this, say or not say this, will it make my partner feel like they matter to me, yes or no?”

Rule # 2

A fail safe rule is to always maintain respect and care, respect and care, respect and care, together with some kindness. No harm is done in any conflict or difficult encounter when both people maintain good old fashioned respect and care towards the other and themselves.

Rule # 3

It’s a good idea to talk with your partner about their expectations, assumptions and beliefs about marriage. Couples may start their marriage with similar beliefs and assumptions, however, with the passage of time, maturity and changing life circumstances, these once shared beliefs can become quite different and sometimes opposing.

Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.

Mother Teresa

Rule # 4

Integrity in the relationship is critical to maintain because you cannot have closeness without it. Authentic, close and loving relationships only exist with genuine honesty between two people.

Rule # 5

Don’t try to make your partner to be the same as yourself. Instead ensure that you value, support and appreciate differences. You have to develop a way of interacting where the differences add to your relationship rather than detract.

Rule # 6

If it’s possible, try to resolve problems as they occur. This is achieved through talking and listening to each other….. in a skilful and respectful manner.

Rule # 7

Communication. At the heart of all good relationships is communication. Not much happens without effective communication. This is a skill to be developed both in how to talk to the other, as well as to listen and understand the other. Seems simple, yet it can take a lifetime to perfect.

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