INTENSIVE

COUPLES SESSIONS

If your marriage is in turmoil.

If you have tried counselling it did not sort the issues out.

If this feels like a ‘last ditch effort’ to save your marriage.

Then the Intensive Sessions’ are exactly what you need.

Couple sitting on a park bench talking
Couple sitting together on a park bench in deep conversation

Who should do the intensives?

This is a marriage rescue program for a relationship in trouble. The purpose is to stop complete marriage breakdown.

By the time a relationship gets to this stage you are exhausted from trying to work things out. You don’t feel that your partner is listening to what you are trying to say. If fact, you have said the same thing so often that you feel that there is no point in continuing.

The Relationship Intensive Sessions are for couples whose marriage is characterized by ongoing conflict, plagued by major issues of trust, or for those couples who can literally see that separation is knocking at their front door. All too often, this has been happening for a long time and love seems to have been forgotten.

Couple in Counselling Sitting on a couch
Couple in Counselling Sitting on a couch

The Intensives are for couples who see no-end-insight to their conflict and re embroiled in their differences…. and separation is starting to feel like a serious option.

Couples in crisis typically put greater effort into arguing the rightness in their position rather than seeking an understanding of the others’ view. The only outcome is that the couple never resolve anything.

A marriage at this level of crisis requires a concentrated effort to prevent its complete breakdown

Can the Relationship Intensive help us?

With two intensives, each person gains greater experience and understanding of the others’ concerns, regardless of whether you agree on the issues, as well as gaining insight into your own position.

The process helps couples to move from a place of conflict to a place of understanding, reconnection and togetherness.

Through talking about past ‘cold’ issues and current ‘hot’ conflicts, each person is given the opportunity to discuss what is important to them. This conversation is not distracted by the intensity of emotions and the provocative language often used by couples engaged in ongoing conflict.

Figuring out all the elements and negative effects of a marriage characterized by conflict is a daunting task, but the potential pay off for success, as a couple, is significant.

Couples will gain greater skills in…

  • Problem solving techniques and reflective thinking;
  • Ability to listen without becoming defensive;
  • Skills in discussing problems without blaming;
  • How to get your point across without being disrespectful;
  • Learn how to recognize and vocalize emotional needs;
  • How to understand each others experience and view of the issues;
  • Develop the skills to simultaneously confront and support each other;
  • Gain greater understanding of the ‘underlying problems’ and apply appropriate solutions;
  • Develop skills to prevent unhelpful defences like ‘stonewalling’ infecting your marriage.

How long are the sessions?

By the time a relationship gets to this stage you are exhausted from trying to work things out. You don’t feel that your partner is listening to what you are trying to say. If fact, you have said the same thing so often that you feel that there is no point in continuing.

1. Each Relationship Intensive Session is for three hours;

2. The two sessions occur over two consecutive days;

3. Are available weekdays and weekends.

“When we speak out with respect, we ventilate the soul”